Have you ever felt like Giving Up?......We all have! Wouldn't it be easier?
Yes, it is easier to give up and live among the walking dead who work at the same job, by their coffee at the same Starbucks every morning, walk the dog, go to the gym, put the kids to bed, watch their Netflix or DVRed shows. Blah, blah, blah, blah.....ho hum.
When I think I hate my work, no one likes it, I only have 3 likes and that person has 256.....how does that happen? Why am I doing this? Why do I care? I shouldn't care what others think. I can do it too. No I can't. I suck. This sucks. No one wants to buy my work. I am going to apply for that art show....not accepted. I cannot paint that. Let me see and oh, no this stinks and no one is going to like it. Over, and over, and over. Go back to monotony.
These are the things that repeat in our heads and the more We keep on, keeping on, the better and easier it gets because as soon as we get into a rhythm, something always pops up. I was in a rut the last few months and have begun to see a pattern. I feel like I need a break or, more like, think I need to give up as I have in the past when I thought I needed someone's approval.
I notice that when I have a good run or complete a big project with my art, I get in a rut and make excuses as to why I cannot keep going. I had a buyer back out after working hard on a work and got discouraged. I did not paint for a month. I went to Greece and painted every morning without fighting. And when I returned? I took about a month's break. Even with long hours at work (11+ days and short nights), I have mustered up the courage to paint as much as I can because I am still learning on how to make the process less mentally exhausting by making myself do it even when I do not want to and find excuses creeping up.
When we reach for our dreams, NO MATTER WHAT, keep on truckin'! When the thoughts start:
1) Drop everything! and paint, sing, dance, exercise, read or whatever it is that can occupy your mind. Because once you start, you find you do not want to stop and when you do? Hearts will be uplifted.
2) Go to Instagram or Facebook. Not to see what the people that live on their are doing and how 'perfect' they think their life is....go on to get encouragement. JOIN art groups or music groups and only allow yourself to search those. Leave comments on what you like. SUPPORT others on their journeys.
3) ASK for help! This is not easy. We need to learn to ask for what we need. I have a small car and asked a friend to help me bring a large painting to ship. She said yes. It was that easy. We can learn so much from other artists, and there is so much help out there! They are going through the same thing! Go figure, and most are open to sharing their secrets!!!
3) Journal. We have to write down the ugly feelings and thoughts. Get them out of our head and replace them with positive ones about what we have accomplished. It works!
4) Take out some art you have 'completed.' artist's work is never done. What have you accomplished? You will be surprised on all the work you have actually been doing! Keep it up and maybe you see something that you missed in a work before? I had filled up a little watercolor pad and did not even realize it! I went to paint and low and behold...
5) KEEP GOING! No matter what keep it up. I have been and am still in your shoes. We are human and need to embrace our imperfections.
We have to be proud in saying we are learning. We make mistakes Be okay with the mistakes. We need to be happy about them because they make us unique and teach us things about ourselves that we would never have known had we not embarked on this journey.
It's not easy stepping out on the skinny branches. It is even more difficult sharing it with the world and owning the imperfections. Funny, the pieces everyone loves have been my (in my opinion, and I am beginning to like more and more) least successful, yet they are the most popular....go figure. Whether we like our work or not, or anyone else for that matter, love that we are working towards making the world a brighter, better and more peaceful place. It's all we, as individuals, can do. Be who God made us to be. We know, deep down, what makes our heart smile. Share it with everyone because it makes us, well....us!
BE LOVE, BE JOY, BE YOU! <3
PS Afternoon finishing the slideshow, I wanted to add 1 MORE THING!
6) STOP BEATING OURSELVES UP! We are much too hard on ourselves in every area of our life. Do something, anything and WE'VE GOT THIS!! xo